It is Sunday morning at 2:00am after our Three-Day Marriage Clinic. I am awake and I wanted to take time to write you both.
I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your teaching, sacrifice and encouragement. We were in serious trouble and without an intervention our 15-year marriage was headed in a downward spiral even though we were both born again Christians. Our disagreements have been so circular. He demanded to hear words that I did not feel and my apologies could rarely hit the target and neither of us knew a thing about what the other needed. My gift of mercy had worn thin and I was bound by bitter feelings of anger and resentment. My husband, the organizer, had been a workaholic like Nehemiah. I joined him after growing weary in my profession (following a divorce) and became a property manager. I can identify that he, like Nehemiah, was a wall builder. I joined in the building. After years of his project I grew weary without comfort, attention, and appreciation and I began to build the wall between us. The more he delegated, showed favoritism, and overlooked serious character flaws in our workers, the more I felt the need to work and empathize with our loyal hard working employees. After several serious health issues, I became too weary to continue my husbands projects and could not longer respond to insensitive pressure to perform.
Tonight, after our last day of the Marriage Clinic, we have renewed hope that God can resurrect our marriage. In Proverbs 20:5 it states “a person’s thoughts are like water in a deep well, but someone with insight can draw them out.” In 20:18 it states “get good advice and you will succeed; don’t go charging into battle without a plan.” Your teaching has given us the tools to use our spiritual gifts and process our needs and hurts and get to the bottom of the real problem. The enemy was surely trying to keep us so bound up with unmet needs that we gave up in pain.
Again, I want to thank you for your preparation . . . . You have modeled a safe way to explore how we must battle our problems and not each other.
Thank you, Karl and Terry, for helping us continue to grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. You have both helped point us back to Him who is able to keep us from stumbling and to bring us faultless and joyful before His throne.